Showing posts with label dating tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating tips. Show all posts

Sunday, 3 November 2013

7 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Attract Men ...

By: Colina Dondas



If you are surprised to be reading this, I must tell you that there actually are a lot of mistakes women make when trying to attract men. Because sometimes they try so hard (or even too hard, I might add), they might send the wrong message and eventually they’ll end up scaring their dream guy. I know that a lot of single women nowadays are working very hard to be successful in their careers so they know (or they’ve learned) that in order to obtain something, they must get control of the situation and make it happen. Yet, sometimes too much is just too much and in those cases, it’s best to just make things happen more naturally. So, here are 7 of the most common mistakes women make when trying to attract men:

1. Wear Too Much Makeup
One of the most common mistakes women make when trying to attract men is the fact that sometimes they wear too much makeup, even if it’s not necessary. I used to have this problem myself (I absolutely love eye-shadows and glosses), but I understood that sometimes less is indeed more and that makeup should be used in order to enhance your natural beauty and not to hide it. So, let your skin breathe every now and then because you have such a pretty face with or without any makeup!

2. They Are Late on Their Dates
I know you’re all aware of that common stereotype that women are always late but as with all stereotypes, this is also false. Despite all that, some women might be tempted to do it on purpose, especially on their dates, because in their opinion, they believe that this way, that man will want them even more because he has waited for them and that must mean that he’s really interested. Well, actually, this is not the best thing you could do on your dates. Try to be punctual and show him that he and his time are important you. I’m sure you’ll give him plenty of reasons to be interested about the wonderful lady that you are.

3. They Starve Themselves
Sadly this is one of the problems most women have nowadays and this unhealthy behavior could easily turn into an eating disorder. I’m not saying you shouldn’t pay attention to what you’re eating or to where that food is coming from; I’m just advising you to never starve yourself, especially if you think that by doing this, your dream guy might like you. Most men do prefer a woman with some curves but in the end, a woman's great personality matters more than the way she looks on the outside.

4. They Wear Too Little Clothes
Another mistake a lot of women make when trying to attract men is the fact that they wear too little clothes, because they think that by showing a bit more skin they’ll definitely get that perfect man they’ve always been looking for. Well, that’s not the way to do it, because most of the time you’ll only end up attracting the wrong men that are only interested in the physical aspects of your relationship and they don’t care about the spiritual bond that should exist in every relationship between the partners.

5. They Try to Be Someone Else
Men are usually attracted to women who are authentic and genuine and who are not trying to seem someone they’re not just to please others. You shouldn’t let anyone change you! Only you will decide if you do want to change a thing or two about your behavior or not. Just don’t pretend to be someone else! A man will love you for the wonderful person that you actually are and not because you are somebody you think he wants.

6. They Lower Their Standards Because of a Timeline
Another most frequent mistake most women make when searching for Mr. Right is the fact that they often rush themselves, they are impatient and they are often willing to lower their standards because they might have a timeline. Let’s say because they decide they want get married by they’re 30 and have two kids by 35. Remember: desperation leads to bad decisions sometimes and by the way, you’ll never know when you’ll meet the love of your life and when that happens, you wouldn’t want to be married to the wrong guy.

7. They Often Think Negative Thoughts
If you are a shyer person or if you do have some problems with your self-esteem, you might think that you don’t deserve to be loved or that nobody will really be interested in you. Basically, you might focus on thinking only negative thoughts instead of positive outcomes. You may not realize yet how influential your own thoughts and words are, but you should keep in mind that by accentuating all that’s positive, you’ll not only attract more people (especially men), but you’ll also feel good about yourself.

These were, in my opinion, some of the most common mistakes women do when they’re looking for Mr. Right. I should add that another thing you should always have when you’re looking for your soul mate is the right support from your loved ones, because there have been a lot of women who have been led in the wrong direction by seemingly well-intentioned friends, so try to pick your friends carefully and seek for expert advice when you need it. Have you ever made a mistake when you were trying to attract men? Do tell!

 

Love Yourself before You Can Love Someone Else ...

By: Amber Oliver



I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying “You can’t love someone without loving yourself," and even if you haven’t, you should really look into the reasons and ways to love yourself before you can ever love another in a healthy, communicative relationship. You need to know what you love about yourself first. Whether it’s your perfect fashion sense, glossy hair, or hilarious sense of humor, you should love and be comfortable in your skin before anyone can love the same great things about you. So, I’ll start you off with a few different reasons and ways to love yourself!

1. Admire Your Quirks
Do you like to put ketchup on your pizza? Or have a dislike for matching socks? Or are you (like me) so fluent in sarcasm that people can’t tell if you’re serious or not? Well, those are the things that make you, you! The little weird quirks are a big part of you, and if you learn to love them as one of many ways to love yourself, you definitely won’t be embarrassed or ashamed of them if your lover sees them for the first time. And, if it turns out he or she doesn’t like them, then it’s their loss. See, loving yourself first helped you dodge a major bad relationship bullet!

2. Adore Your Intelligence
You don’t ever want to have to play dumb to get the guy or girl you want. If he or she doesn’t like the fact that you have a good head on your shoulders then he’s definitely not the one for you! Improving your education and knowing that you can accomplish what you want in life because you’re smart and well-rounded are all good ways to love yourself. You know that you’re not someone who can easily be taken advantage of. So, love your intelligence, and someone worthy of your knowledge will surely take notice.

3. Cherish Your Confidence
Though not everyone is super confident, I believe we all have it in us to look past the negative notions about ourselves, and focus on the positives. Are you a good cook? Can you figure out ridiculously hard math equations? There is always something--even if you have a hard time believing so--that you are proud of. Use that to fuel your confidence. Other people can sense insecurity and will prey on it. Don’t give them that chance! Be confident and love who you are, then there's a good chance you won’t become someone's doormat in the future.

4. Appreciate Your Appearance
While it’s true that family members resemble each other, no two people look exactly alike. And guess what? You should be proud of that! No one could have the same petite nose, full lips, bountiful bosoms, or long legs as you, and that’s something you have to realize. No, you’re not going to be absolutely in love with every single feature on your face, or every crevice on your body. But, it’s important to be comfortable in it! Any person you think you’re going to fall in love with or have a relationship with obviously loves the way you look, but you have to see that too. Or again, you’d end up in a position where the other person has power because of your insecurities.

5. Treasure Your Creativity
Do you enjoy writing poems or short stories? Are you a DIY maven, ready to take on any project? Are you a fearless, fierce performer? Try to think of ways in which you exhibit your creativity. Creativity is such an amazing thing because it lets you see how others’ minds work. You get to see how unique your creativity is and spread that wonderfulness to the world. Appreciate and love that uniqueness! I’m pretty sure that special someone would be impressed by it!

6. Pursue Your Passion
Have you always wanted to do something, but everyone around you told you that you couldn’t? Well, don’t let that nonsense get to you! Follow your passion, because most often, it is the deepest, truest part of you. If you pursue your passion, you’re doing something you truly enjoy. It’s so fulfilling and definitely helps you love yourself because you’re doing what’s best for you and makes you happy. No one else should dictate that! [ read: Girls Just Want to have fun. ]

7. Reflect on Your Mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes. I don’t think anyone is immune to them. But, the key to not being a repeat-offender is to reflect on what went wrong. If you assess what happened, and learn from it, you’ll have less regrets, and less reasons to feel bad about yourself. The goal is to love every part of you, so even loving the lessons you learned from mistakes is a good thing! If you are comfortable and honest with the mistakes you made, chances are your significant other won’t mind much either. [ read: common mistakes women make when trying to attract men. ]

That popular saying is nothing less than the truth. Loving yourself before you get into a relationship is the only surefire way of you knowing your own self-worth and what you mean to the world. Hope these tips/reasons and ways to love yourself have been helpful, y’all! Are there any tips you guys have on ways to love yourself before you can love someone else?

How to Know If You Are Really in Love?


Falling in love is a wonderful and crazy feeling that’s worth experiencing at least once in our lives. When you know you are falling in love, the way you look at the world and experience life can change in a moment. But the bigger question is how to know if you are in love? Well, find out here.

  • Falling in love is an experience worth living for. And the first time you fall in love, that’s a memory of a lifetime. But how to know if you are in love in the first place?
  • All of us have our own experiences in love, and every moment is as unique as the person who is falling in love.
  • Many believe in love at first sight while many others think the best kind of love is one where two friends understand each other and fall in love gradually.
  • Now however you may fall in love, the feelings are all the same. And when you’re in love, you’ll just know!
  • When you fall in love with someone, you start to experience feelings and urges that are quite unexplainable and confusing.
  • Read these signs to know if you are in love.

How to know if you are in love

Falling is love may be a single emotion, but that single emotion can cause so many hormonal, chemical and emotional changes, it’s almost unbelievable.
You’re definitely in love if you’re experiencing these emotions.


Butterflies in your stomach

For anyone who experiences falling in love it first sight, you can’t really help but experience butterflies in your stomach.
It’s a vague sensation of wanting to throw up and trying to get to the loo at the same time.

Your stomach starts to perform intricate back flips and the insides of your stomach feel like they’re fluttering!
So why does this happen? Surprisingly, no one really knows why this even happens! But it just does.
Some scientists believe this is due to the release of adrenalin by your body because of the nervousness you experience when you fall in love at first sight.


Unexplained happiness
  • Do you find yourself kissing pillows, jumping up and down in excitement and joy for no apparent reason and giving your lover funny little pet names? You may just be in love.
  • According to Helen Fisher, anthropologist from Rutgers University, when you fall in love, the levels of dopamine in the brain increase due to the increased blood flow to the regions where the receptors of dopamine are present. Dopamine, a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life.
  • The dopamine released in the brain make you feel sleepless, restless, full of happiness and make you think about your lover, a lot. Ever taken cocaine? That’s just like an intense burst of dopamine!

You can’t think of anyone else

When you’re in love, you can’t really think of anything else but your lover. They’d be tirelessly running around in your mind and you can’t work, remember things or focus on other interests. This is due to norepinephrine, a chemical compound that gets released along with dopamine, in the brain.


You get sexually attracted… a lot!

In a study conducted on several young couples madly in love, it was seen that the levels of serotonin, a neurotransmitter found mostly in the intestinal tract, dropped dangerously low, something that’s experienced by people suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder.

But on the other hand, it was noticed that low serotonin levels in young couples increased the desire to have sex. Talk about evolution’s way of forcing the ritual of baby making while we’re completely attracted to each other!


You get depressed easily

Do you get upset easily if the person you like upsets you in any manner? Well, you may be in love. While the drop in the serotonin level makes you more horny, it also makes you depressed and anxious!

Even the smallest of things can upset you or your lover, and both of you may end up spending a lot of time trying to please each other with little acts of love and affection. While each act of love increases the love and attraction, each disappointment makes you more vulnerable to pain and depression.


How to know if you are in love

Falling in love with someone, and staying in love with someone are two completely different experiences. While most people believe it was love right from the beginning, falling in love actually begins with a note of lust and sexual excitement along with the flutter of love.

Falling in love is like a drug, and unfortunately, just like a drug, it doesn’t really last forever. While the levels of chemicals like dopamine and serotonin gradually come back to normal after a few months or years depending on the type of relationship, it’s up to the lovers to find ways to keep the excitement in love alive.

Every time you have a crush on someone, the whole game of chemistry in love starts firing the Bunsen burners and we’re back to square one all over again.

But evolution and the hormone oxytocin though, have found a way to make lovers seek commitment and make couples fall in love forever. It has created stages in love, and all these experiences are just one single stage in the process of falling in love. [ read: Love Yourself before You Can Love Someone Else ... ]

So how to know if you are in love? You’re going to be experiencing every single emotion that’s been explained here. But is your love going to last forever? Well, that’s a whole different story!